So, I have been noticing those roadside memorials - crosses along the highways, that bear witness to someone who was last alive in this place. There are many, many of them here in New Mexico, and I don't think its because the numbers killed on the highways are statistically higher than other places. These "descansos" resting places, are more than mere reminders to drive safely, I think. They are created and maintained as ongoing memorials to a person's life. They create a living tradition of honoring, not only the dead, but life and the land itself.
I've been taking pictures of them as I explore the landscape, slowing down and stopping along the road, paying attention, noticing. Something happens when you do something differently. Driving in this way becomes more of a pilgrimage, more about the journey than the destination, and the mind/heart begins to tell stories. First it was the memorials themselves. The descansos are full of color and stand out in the mottled brown black blurry and vague landscape, and the traditional cross makes visible (to anyone who cares to see) what is a very intimate personal life crossroad. They tell us that at this moment and this place (the truest meaning of crossroads?) everything changed. Nothing will be the same again. Let us not forget.
My eye (and my heart) became enlivened at these crossroads. Perhaps the descansos themselves began to speak when I slowed down long enough to listen. And they speak about love and connectedness and human suffering and gratitude, and inevitably, the feeling of "I am alive in THIS PLACE and in THIS MOMENT." What is sacred - grows, what is noticed and remembered, becomes sacred. The descansos speaks about all life, and in doing so, names it sacred. This Person, this Place, this Time. That ancient peak, this meandering valley, those juniper and pinon, this adobe farm, that broken heart even this road that undulates through it all, is part of life, creating a wholeness out of the pieces and parts, and so makes them sacred.
These traditions create something that, I believe, is vital to human cultures. Without them, our societies deteriorate. Creating these traditions (and traditions are always beginning - again and again) sustains cultures. I have a feeling that a tradition of collecting and eating candy does not create sustainable culture in and of itself. Nor does simply attending a funeral necessarily honor the person who has died (or life itself, for that matter!).
I think that creating traditions that bind us together - family and stranger, public and private - must be a vital purpose of life.
